what are we looking for?

we have been seeing/sending lots of mail with msgs, poems, lessons to leave everything and go and settle with our dear ones, or atleast make an attempt to spend some time with them... but somehow, we always manage to say "i have no time ma".."why cant you understand dad".."no anna ! i cannot come for diwali" ... to think of it, wat are we looking for... may be money, settled life , better future for the dear ones... third one is always better answer for us to say them " i am working for you ma.. why cant you understand".. are these real answer or jus excuses??,... do we start enjoying other segments of this world and begin to enjoy staying away ??......was that hard to spend time with our dear ones??.. most of us know the answer.. some things are better not be told....